Let’s face it. Relationships can be a bit complicated. But this is only true if we make them complicated. One way couples are complicating their relationships is through the use of social media. Yes. Your use of social media could be ruining the intimacy in your relationships and particularly your marriage.
There is a proven correlation between social media and relationships. Andrew Newbury, head of family law at Slater and Gordon said:
“Social media can be a wonderful way of keeping in touch with family and friends, but it can also put added strain on a relationship.
“Five years ago Facebook was rarely mentioned in the context of a marriage ending, but now it has become common place for clients to cite social media use, or something they discovered on social media, as a reason for divorce.
“With more than 556 million people using Facebook each day, the way we live our lives, and our marriages, has drastically changed. We are finding that social media is the new marriage minefield.
“Social media, specifically pictures and posts on Facebook, are now being routinely raised in the course of divorce proceedings.
Here are 3 signs from which relationship experts and divorce attorneys have concluded that social media is ruining the intimacy in relationships and marriages.
1. Comparisons Fuel Insecurity. Michael Aurit
Have pics of your best friend being carried away in the arms her Idris Elba look alike husband got you feeling insecure and jealous? Well, don’t sweat it. Michael Aurit says, “Any Facebook friend can dress to impress, take a selfie with their spouse, smile and post DinnerDateNight. As you scroll your news feed and see so many seemingly perfect marriages, there is a natural tendency to compare your own relationship to the perceived perfection of another’s. The weaknesses in your own marriage may become more obvious. Resist the urge to take what you see at face value! In reality, you know very little about the relationship that is being presented on Facebook. Rather than allowing comparisons to fuel insecurity, channel that energy into something productive to deepen your own relationship.”
2. Sharing Ain’t Caring. Caroline Choi
Is your partner more concerned about sharing via social media than he or she is about caring for your feelings? Caroline Choi says sharing too much about your relationship can cause distrust. “Intimate details about your relationship and marriage should never be exposed on social media. Your friends and family are not interested in these details, and more importantly, it causes distrust between partners and it can backfire if you and your partner divorce.”
3. Holding Your iPhone Instead of Getting it On. Randall M. Kessler
Is your boo cradling his iPhone more than he is holding you? Is your wife so interested in her newsfeed that she forgets about your sexual needs? Randall M. Kessler says, “Instead of getting into bed and discussing how each other’s day was, couples, instead, often opt to be on social media. Instead of intimate moments and sweet or even romantic conversation (or behavior), one partner is often fully engaged with friends, acquaintances, or even followers during times that they would otherwise be growing and improving their marital relationship. Yes, affairs can be ignited via Facebook, and emotional attachments and relationships can occur on social media and harm marriages, but we shouldn’t overlook the obvious. Put down your device, ask your spouse how their day was, and listen. It might make a world of difference.”
Source: Huffington Post