Why Happy Couples Cheat: Is Infidelity An Expression of Longing and Loss? –
(Esther Perel on TED Talk) – Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.
Sexuality and relationship expert, Esther Perel said that many of her clients have cheated after a parent dies or after hearing bad news at the doctor, rather than as a result of problems within their current relationships.
She also said that people who cheat often believe in monogamy, but they find their values and behavior in conflict when they actually have an affair. “That’s because cheating isn’t necessarily about sex or even a person’s partner — it’s about a more complex desire,” Perel said. Read more @ Huffingtonpost.com…
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Through case studies and lively discussion, Esther Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.