It Takes a Village: Permitting a Stranger to Beat Your Child – Would you permit a stranger to beat your child with a belt? After a video of a man who was a stranger to the family, beating/hitting a child with a belt went viral, people went into an uproar. WISN 12 News tracked the man involved down and also talked to Sharounder Joyner, the mother of the teen boy who was beaten with the belt.
Joyner told WISN 12 news that it takes two people to make a child, but it takes a village to raise one, and she can respect that. But when Africans came up with the African proverb, “It takes a Village to Raise a Child,” Did they really intend it to be used to encourage the black community to allow beatings as seen in this video? [WATCH VIDEO]
MILWAUKEE —The mother of a teenage boy beaten with a belt by a stranger said she is thankful her son is alive to learn from his mistake.
Sharounder Joyner and her family were preparing to celebrate her son’s 14th birthday Thursday.
“We could have been planning a funeral instead of a birthday party,” Joyner said.
Video of the incident went viral. The man, who has not been charged in connection with the incident, apparently caught Joyner’s son, Demonta Mills, and his friends stealing from him at Pulaski Park last week.
“Our tough love wasn’t working,” Joyner said. “So I guess he wanted to feel the hard way for him to go out there and do what he did to somebody he didn’t know.”
The man asked Demonta if he wanted to be taken to the police, his mother or get hit with a belt.
Demonta said he accepted the belt because he didn’t want the man to know where he lived.
Joyner said her son was also fearful of her reaction.
“I would have given him a worse whooping than that young man had,” Joyner said.
Joyner said it was difficult to watch the video of her son being beaten, but said she knows in many neighborhoods across the inner city that Demonta could have been killed.
She said she is thankful all the man did was discipline her child.
“It takes two people to make a child, but it takes a village to raise one, and I can respect that,” Joyner said.
Joyner said she doesn’t plan to press charges against the man in the video. Milwaukee police are investigating the case.
WISN 12 News tracked the man involved down and he stands by his actions.
It’s really not clear to many people how any black person who is aware of our history in this country as slaves, would condone any form of whipping, beating, or lashing this child with a belt. And when Africans came up with the African proverb, “It takes a Village to Raise a Child,” Did they really intend it to be used to encourage the black community to allow beatings as seen in this video. We need to put emphasis on proper parenting instead of looking for other’s to take on our parental roles for us. As parents, we bring our children into this world and it’s our sole responsibility to raise them, not this so called village. In the news reel, the mother clearly admits to beating this child before, and claims she would have beaten the child more severely than the man in the video. So, after a lifetime of beatings from his mother, this fourteen year old still continues to get into trouble. What has this form of discipline resulted in? Will young boys who were beaten as children grow up to be abusers? Will young girls who are beaten grow up to accept abusive behavior from boyfriends and husbands?